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Here is a question from one of our missouri women that centers around a problem that tends to create a lot of jealousy
in relationships. My lover is supporting his ex girlfriend and her three children from her marriage to another man. Although,
she has another lover currently, my boyfriend feels that she needs financial help with the kids as her current lover can not
afford to do that. I am feeling insecure. I worry that one day his ex lover may take take my lover's help as an indication
that he still holds a special place for her in his heart and may try to come back to him. My missouri girls told me that he
is over with his ex USA wife but he is just helping out. Please help me overcome this feeling of jealousy. I feel
that he still loves her. You have to decide to separate fact from what you are making up in your head and playing over and
over to keep your agitation going. If you have anything concrete that you can point to that indicates that he still love missouri
ladies, then you have to decide what you are going to do. If this ex causes problems, other than him giving her money, then
you need to address them. If your boyfriend truly just wants to help the kids, and he may, you have to decide whether you
are going to stop your stories in your head or not. Through our work with montana ladies around this topic, one thing we have
learned is that jealousy is a habit that you can get over. So, the first order of business to getting over this habit is to
separate what is true from what you are assuming or fearing will happen in the future. The truth is that all we have is the
current moment and the trick to breaking the jealousy habit is to stay in the current moment. When you find yourself fearing
the future or dwelling on what happened in the past, pull yourself into the current moment and focus on what you want your
relationship to be with your montana women. It seems that you need to also begin asking yourself what you want from your montana
girls and how you want to be treated by him. Talk together about how you would both like your relationship to be and leave
out the michigan girls. Start focusing on what you want rather than what you do not want. We have a free course and also a
paid course on jealousy to help michigan ladies break their jealous habit. If you are jealous, we invite you to begin making
some positive changes in your life and moving toward the michigan women and life that you want.
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